What would it take to decide to never beat yourself up again with negative self-talk? How would making that decision change how you go through your day? I made this commitment to myself some time ago – never to stay or play in a mode of “beating myself up”. I can’t say I have completely erased the pattern, but I can catch it before it takes me in a direction that is not in alignment with infinite love.
*One* thing that works well to INTERRUPT a self-pity path has been to look open-heartedly and humbly at
what is it that I’m GAINING from being hard on my self in that moment.
Somewhere in my soul and in my mind, I have rationalized the self-pity with some sort of positive intention.
Or else, I wouldn’t do it. Yikes.
This isn’t so easy to face. I have a positive intention in “being hard on myself”? WTF – My ego does not like to go here. And yet, if I am committed to breaking this negative self-talk pattern (this legacy in my case), taking this hard, deep, loving look at what I GET from self-pity is a key part of changing the pattern at a deep level.
In the meantime, have compassion for when the inner negative self-talk is not so friendly. And choose to remember that you are doing the best you can. And now, what do you choose instead?
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